1. Bae is happier when you’re not around.
Around you they are dull and depressed but around others they seem to be their old self.
2. Your partner purposefully picks fights with you.
When the most simple things turn into an argument, chances are one (or both) of you is looking for a way out. Arguing all the time, and over every little thing, is a sign that there is a problem. If the relationship is a constant battle, you are on notice that it might be coming to an end.
3. Bae’s social media habits change.
This seems counterintuitive, but if posts of the two of you seem to increase, it can be an indication that your partner is looking for validation or encouragement from friends and family to stay in the relationship. However, if posts and status updates change, and your partner appears to look as though he or she might be signaling to the world they’re available, you need to move on.
4. Your boo’s friends are switching up on you.
If their friends suddenly turn cold or distant, this may be a hint that they have been talking about you and a breakup is imminent.
5. Bae is suddenly ghosting you.
If he or she “ghosts” you, or pulls away when it’s convenient for him or her, this relationship will not last the long haul. Does bae break plans with you when the next best thing comes along? Does your partner avoid certain discussions? If the answer is “yes” to either, it could be a bad sign. You need someone who follows through with what they say they are going to do. This type of person almost never cancels, and if they do, they will immediately reschedule to make it up to you.
6. Your partner always sticks up for other people.
Another bad sign is when you’re venting about a confrontation and your S.O. takes up for the other person (not just in a devil’s advocate kind of way). This shows your partner is unwilling to see things from your perspective or be supportive of you.
7. You talk about them behind their back.
Talking about your partner behind their back is the greatest insult that you can ever give someone, especially if you are in a relationship with this person. It’s an unforgivable act of betrayal if you always talk to your friends about what’s happening in your relationship especially when it comes to your partner’s deepest secrets, or if it’s about the things that took them a tremendous amount of faith and courage to tell you.
If you break their trust this way, it’s just a matter of time until they finally realize that you don’t deserve their truth.
8. You always ignore or even underestimate their ideas.
Your partner needs to feel that their ideas matter, and you need to understand that you are not the only person in the relationship who knows what they are doing. Just like any type of partnership, you need to be willing and open to each other’s ideas, opinions and perspectives.
Ignore these things and you’ll always find yourselves arguing and fighting over trivial matters.
9. You think that helping them out is costing too much of your time.
If you don’t have the time to be with your partner especially when they need someone to give them a hand, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship in the first place. Remember that being in a partnership means doing your part and helping each other out especially if there is no one else to lend them a hand.
10. You’re a good talker and a terrible listener.
Do you always find yourself hogging the spotlight during conversations? Do you take up most of your “talk time” and forget that your partner has their stories to tell, too? Being a good listener is one of the qualities of a good partner – and it can make a huge difference if you want your relationship to last.
Hopefully, these pieces of advice will help you finally find your forever. For others who just realized why their previous relationships didn’t work out, then it’s high time that you learned your lessons. Good luck and have a great life!
