11 Ways to know you are forcing yourself to love someone.
A good relationship is defined by future plans. If he or she rarely talks about the future, you are not meant to be, forcing yourself to love someone is not worth it. Yes, love can be learned, but while you have not yet, then do not commit yourself to anyone. You will end up bound in chains, never sure if you would truly be happy or not. Being in love is one of the most beautiful feelings, especially if it is reciprocated. If you have never felt those fluttering butterflies in your stomach with your partner, then you probably have never been in love with him / her.
Desperation rarely leads to good decisions. Here’s a secret that everyone needs to know: If you’re unhappy single, you’re eventually going to be unhappy in a relationship unless you change your life.
Don’t jump into a relationship because you’re so desperate for someone to make you happy. It doesn’t work like that. Get into a relationship when you’re with someone you genuinely enjoy who feels the same way about you.
1. You don’t talk about the future, You never discuss your plans for the future. It’s almost like some sort of a taboo subject. Sure, you’re thinking about it, but he/she never speaks in terms of ‘we’ and ‘us’. It is always what he/she wants out of their life. You never seem part of the equation.
2. Trying to be someone you’re not in order to please another human being would eventually leave you with identity issues, a mass of regrets.
3. You do not see yourself spending the rest of your life with him/her. If you find yourself day dreaming about your future but you cannot see your partner in it, then it says a lot about what you feel for him/her. Subconsciously, you hope you can get away from your present relationship.
4. You are the only one calling, does your partner call you? How many times does he/she call you? If you are the only one calling, something is wrong somewhere. He or she should also call you daily for the relationship to work.
5. He / she is a good person, but, That ‘but’ ruins it all, He/she is a good person, funny, smart, ambitious, and a whole bunch of other great things. But you’re not in love with this person, You’re forcing it, If you’re really in love, you will never see anyone but the person you love. There are a lot of great people in this world. Both of you deserve to be in a relationship where the other person doesn’t want to change things about you.
6. You wish you could free yourself from the person. Normal people who truly love their partners would never wish for a breakup. Now, if you always find yourself looking for reasons to fight with your boyfriend / girlfriend and separate ways, then that is it. Maybe it is because you know that in your heart you are lying to your partner and yourself.
You want him to break up with you – Often, you think you would be happy if he broke up with you. You do things that you think will make him hate you and run away from you. But instead, he starts loving you even more. You feel guilty and continue forcing yourself to stay with him.
7. As someone who had been dating a wrong guy for 2 years, I know how it is easy to trick yourself into thinking you love him. Every day you try to remind yourself of his best traits and every night you convince yourself you want him, and then end up crying in the bathroom and moaning about how unhappy you are. When you love someone, you do not look for reasons and good traits, you just love him the way he is.
8. One moment you feel happy, the next moment you feel miserable. When you are fed up, you feel depressed and lost. But then you convince yourself that you have a partner so you have to feel happy because there are so many girls who are single and miserable. In reality, some single girls are a lot happier than you. Rather than force yourself to love him, overcome your fear of loneliness, focus on yourself and keep searching your soulmate. You will never become happy with someone you do not like, no matter how good they are. Make happiness a priority. The last thing you want to regret in your 50s is spending your life with a wrong person. Think about it.
10. You make all the compromises. You generally do what he or she likes, you go out when when he / she likes, you even work out your career around his / her needs. You are so used to hearing. ‘no’ for most things. You’ve grown weary of even thinking of what you would like to do. Sacrificing happiness has become the norm in your relationship. You even quit hanging out with your friends because he /she does not approve. Perhaps, he / she is jealous, perhaps insecure, but you are slowly having to give your happiness up bit by bit and compromise on everything that is important to you to your relationship afloat.
11. He’ll never make you feel truly comfortable with him. If you’re an adult woman and you find yourself worrying about what to wear around him, if it’s okay to take off your shoes, if your hair looks okay, how to put your arms, he doesn’t like you. If a guy likes you, he’ll do everything within his power to make you feel comfortable.
If that means risking some funky foot smell because you’ve been wearing ankle boots all day, so be it. Love is building up to that day when you’re comfortable enough to fart in front of each other, not tiptoeing around him at every turn.