1. Sometimes, being overly attached can suffocate your partner.
Being too clingy isn’t cute and your partner may think it is until they slowly realize that it can actually be suffocating. Give them the space and time that they need to accomplish other things outside of your relationship. They need to grow as a person and as an independent adult.
2. When in an argument, listen to understand and not to counterattack.
You’re in a relationship, not participants from opposing debate teams. When you’re in the middle of an argument, no matter how small or big it is, you have to listen. Take time to understand what they have to say and don’t do it so you can establish a strong counterattack. Make solving the issue a priority than trying to win the fight.
3. Stop acting like a damsel in distress and be independent.
If you want to be taken seriously, stop acting like you’re a weak and vulnerable woman. Be who you really are: strong, independent, and have the power to reach your dreams. This is important especially if you are in a long-distance relationship.
Sometimes, it can be lonely and some situations can make you feel unhappy. Don’t let this stop you from having fun and from achieving your own goals. More importantly, don’t wait for anyone, not even your partner, to help you reach your dreams.
4. Don’t go to bed without resolving a fight or an argument.
It’s sad to go to bed knowing that you’re both hurting just because no one is strong enough to admit their own mistakes. Don’t let your pride or your ego decide what will happen to your relationship. Sure, you can always sleep it off and just face the problem the next day, but how do you think will it affect your relationship in the long run?
5. Don’t neglect the other aspects of your life.
Your life should not revolve around your partner and it should not be solely focused on your relationship. You have a lot more to offer to the world than just your feelings of being in love.
You have a lot more to accomplish, too, so you should turn your attention to being more productive instead of sulking in bed and drowning in the loneliness of missing your significant other.
6. When in doubt, always choose to be honest and truthful.
Don’t know what to tell your partner about something that you did that might cause them to get mad at you? There’s a simple and effective way to handle this situation: be honest about how you feel and just tell the truth.
Tell them why you did what you did and how you felt about it after realizing that you know you did something wrong.
7. Don’t let your insecurities take over.
Yes, for you, you’re not the most beautiful person in the world, but your partner will disagree. For them, you are perfect in your own imperfect way. You may have your weaknesses, but the day they told you that they’re in love with you was the same day that they accepted every quirk, weirdness, and craziness that you have in you – so don’t go around feeling jealous of the new people that they meet every day. Don’t let your insecurities convince you to doubt your partner’s love for you.
8. Don’t expect everything to be the same as before.
Now that you are in a long-distance relationship, you have to accept the reality that things will change. You’re not going to see them or talk to them whenever you want. They will meet new people in their lives and they may focus on their career first especially if it’s the reason why they left in the first place. Don’t feel abandoned or taken for granted because it’s not their fault and it’s not yours, too. Just be patient and embrace these changes.
9. Sometimes, your partner doesn’t need a lover but a friend.
Sometimes, they just need someone to listen and be their friend especially when things are not going their way. Be there as a listener and as a supportive best friend. Let them know that they are not alone and that you’ll always be there for them when times get tough.
10. At the early stages of the LDR, give your partner time to adjust.
If you’re still trying to adjust to a new long-distance relationship, you have to realize that your partner, too, is experiencing the same anxiety and uncertainty that you do. Be each other’s strength and try to give yourselves the needed time and space to get used to these sudden changes in your life as a couple.
11. Text back and call back – no excuses.
Yes, you can’t always answer their calls or send them endless text messages just like you used to but don’t make it an excuse to not do your part as a partner. Call them back, text them back and let them know why you’re late to respond. Don’t let them worry about you and never make them feel alone by ignoring their attempts to talk to you.
12. Don’t get tired of waiting.
Never give up on your relationship just because you think you’re tired of waiting for them to come back. Be patient and give them the chance to grow even if it means they have to spend time away from you. If it’s true love, it will always be worth the wait, so be strong.
It takes a high level of maturity to commit to a long-distance relationship so no matter how many times you fail, just think that it’s a part of the process. You don’t have to rush into becoming a perfect girlfriend. Take your time and learn from every lesson as you go along this journey. Good luck!