12 Signs you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, your partner is abusing you emotionally
1. They have unrealistic expectations – this may include making very unreasonable demands, expecting you to put their demands first, showing dissatisfaction no matter how hard you try, and expecting you to agree with them in everything.
2. They invalidate your feelings – they do this by trying to ignore or refuse to accept your feelings, telling you that you’re too sensitive or emotional, dismissing your opinions or requests, calling you selfish, and telling you that you’re exaggerating things.
3. They always start trouble – emotionally abusive people tend to create chaos by starting arguments from nowhere, having sudden mood changes, and reacting so erratically.
4. They blackmail and threaten you – emotional blackmail is common in emotionally abusive relationships. This can take many forms including public humiliation, making intimidating comments, manipulating you so that you feel guilty for something they have done, forcing you to apologize even when you’ve done nothing wrong, and using your fears or compassion to control you or manipulate a situation.
5. They act superior – they do this by acting like they are above you, doubting everything you say, make mean and hurtful jokes without being considerate of your feelings, often tell you that your ideas or opinions don’t make sense, talking down on you, act like they are always right and smarter, and cut you off when you’re speaking,
6. They are possessive and isolate you – They will control who you spend time with, monitor you phone, making false accusations, expecting you to report where you are at all time, overly jealous and try to ensure that you cannot be with other people, controlling your finances, and forcing you to spend time with them.
7. You are so afraid of disappointing them – If you second-guess yourself and are too careful around your partner, you are likely in an abusive relationship. In a healthy relationship, mistakes and slip-ups are commo thus one should not make you feel guilty about these.
8. Treating you like a child. They tell you what to wear, what and how much to eat, or which friends you can see.
9. Blaming you for their problems. Whatever’s wrong in their life is all your fault. You’re not supportive enough, didn’t do enough, or stuck your nose where it didn’t belong.
10. Public embarrassment. They pick fights, expose your secrets, or make fun of your shortcomings in public.
11. Belittling your accomplishments. Your abuser might tell you that your achievements mean nothing, or they may even claim responsibility for your success.
12. Pushing your buttons. Once your abuser knows about something that annoys you, they’ll bring it up or do it every chance they get.