1. First, get to know the person better.
Prevent yourself from falling in love with someone you barely know. It’s fine to have a crush on someone because of his or her looks or talent, but assuming the person is a special someone solely for that reason is risky. Take the time to get to know the person on a more personal level.
2. Try to avoid constant communication during the GTKY process.
Avoid having regular and constant communication with the person during the getting-to-know-you process, such as daily texting and chatting. That could become a habit, making you more attached to him/her. Attachment to someone can be mistaken for love at times.
3. Collect feedback from family and friends.
If that person expresses an interest in you, it is best if you introduce him/her to your friends—or, if possible, family. Because you are at the stage where your brain is becoming clouded by emotions, your judgment may be biased and unreasonable. As a result, it is prudent to seek assistance from those around you in assessing the person and the situation.
4. Inquire with people who know him or her personally.
Another helpful tip for determining whether you can trust the person and if s/he is the type you are looking for is to look around—not obviously, of course. Try casually inserting him/her into conversations with people who are connected to him/her, such as friends or colleagues. However, please do not make it obvious that you are curious about this person—be creative!
5. Go on a group date with the person.
You may go out with the person alone on occasion, but not all of the time. If you’re in a dating relationship, try inviting friends or encouraging him/her to go on a group date. Because you’d be able to see him/her interact with other people, you’d be able to observe him/her in a more natural setting.
6. Sift through what you see and hear from him/her.
Please don’t believe or absorb everything he or she says to you, especially if you don’t know each other well yet. Perhaps the person is naturally sweet, and he or she is saying the same things to others whom he or she considers friends. What if he/she is just flirting with you?
7. Do not put your trust in anyone.
As previously stated, what if the person is only flirting with you? Don’t fall for someone you can’t trust because you’re putting yourself in danger. You can only trust someone you know well, so take the time to get to know them.
8. Don’t give in to your emotions.
If you keep convincing yourself that it is the right thing to do, you will fall in love faster. Feeding your emotion entails doing anything that makes you like him/her more, such as thinking about him/her constantly, reminiscing about your sweet moments together repeatedly, and meditating on his/her sweet words. Discipline your mind so that it can filter your thoughts.
When it comes to disciplining your thoughts, this is a necessary step if you want to prevent your heart from falling in love with someone. When you are tempted to think about him/her, immediately divert your attention to something else.
10. Put an end to your social media stalking of him/her.
If you are so obsessed with learning about the person’s life details, whereabouts, and daily activities that you can’t stop visiting his/her social media accounts, it could be an obsession rather than love. The more you are exposed to anything related to the person, the faster you will become attached to him/her.
11. Try not to spend too much time with him/her.
Being with the person on a regular basis, especially alone, will cause your attachment to grow. As a result, if you don’t want your feelings to grow quickly, limit the amount of time you spend with him/her. To avoid this, devote more time to your family and friends, or devote more time to your work.
12. Don’t start any sweet talk.
Encourage no early sweet talks between you. Endearments and pet names should be avoided. You should also avoid topics about love, such as heartbreaks and ideal partners.
13. Do not give any indication that you are attracted.
If the person discovers that you are attracted to him/her, he/she may take advantage of it. It would encourage him/her to express an interest in you as well. Instead of naturally growing your friendship, you’d be tempted to be overly affectionate towards each other.
14. Be willing to share your heart with others.
If you don’t want your feelings for someone to grow too quickly, especially if he or she hasn’t expressed any interest, it’s a good idea to look into other ‘candidates.’ Allow yourself to meet others and make new friends rather than focusing solely on the person. At the very least, if the person vanishes, you will not be in too much pain.
15. Make no assumptions unless expressly stated.
Do not assume anything special between you unless the person expressly expresses an interest in you. You may believe that you share a mutual understanding, so you allow yourself to fall deeply in love, only to discover that s/he only values you as a friend in the end.