1. Commit mistakes gracefully.
Accepting failure is one of the most difficult things a person can do, but it is essential if we are to stay motivated to work even harder. A person who has overcome self-doubt is able to see failures as temporary setbacks. They use setbacks as learning opportunities and return the next day to try again. Keep in mind that winners are simply those who have tried and failed. So, be gracious about your failures—learn from them, and resolve not to be defined by the list of things you didn’t accomplish. If you fail, keep believing in yourself.
2. Keep a diary
When you’re having a bad day, a few words of encouragement from others can easily lift your spirits. Your friends and family, on the other hand, may not always be able to tell you how great you are at what you do. So go ahead and do it for yourself. Write about your victories in your journal on good days. Share how you overcame your challenges and at least three things that went well for you during the day.
If you’re just starting out with a journal, make sure your entries are as accurate and detailed as possible. When you have hard facts about your accomplishments to back you up, you will find it much easier to combat your self-doubt. You’ll also notice that as you develop a writing habit, you’ll become more objective in assessing your own progress.
3. Take in positive energy.
Try to eliminate unreasonably negative thoughts from your mind as you work to break your old habit of self-doubt. My advice is to take in the positive energy that is all around you. If you’re having a bad day, start it off right by listening to your favorite song or, better yet, reading self-help books. You may not be the type to read self-help books, but once you do, you’ll see how they can help you refocus your mind on your potential rather than your perceived failures.
4. Create a personal mantra.
Remember how I said we are our own worst critics? Don’t be surprised if you find yourself in the role of your biggest fan and supporter. Create a set of mantras to say to yourself every morning before leaving for work or school. Begin by saying aloud to yourself in front of a mirror, “I am capable; I am beautiful; I am loved.” When we start our days on a positive note, we are more likely to maintain that attitude throughout the day.
Now that you’ve read everything, I’m sure you realize that the simplest way to summarize everything is “Be kinder to yourself.” We have a tendency to speak negatively about ourselves without realizing how damaging this is to our self-esteem and ability to advance in our careers or personal lives. It’s amazing how easily this very negative mindset can be overcome by simply choosing to love ourselves more. However, as with most pieces of advice, this is easier said than done. It takes effort to learn how to be kinder and more forgiving to ourselves, but it is well worth the effort.To think about it, what better way to combat self-doubt than to focus your efforts on loving yourself more?
5. Break free from the comparison trap
Self-doubt is difficult to overcome on its own. Try not to aggravate the situation by comparing your progress to that of your loved ones or colleagues. Keep in mind that not everyone’s growth looks the same. Comparing yourself to others can lead to self-hatred and, in some cases, jealousy or resentment towards the other person.
It would be a good idea to replace this toxic cycle of comparison with a much healthier habit. Continue to compare yourself to yourself. Track your progress over time and see how far you’ve come between Day 1 and Day 365. This is not only a healthier habit, but it is also a great way to get a better idea of what you are capable of.
6. Tell yourself no.
I know it sounds overly simple, but saying no to yourself can be extremely beneficial in combating anxious thoughts. Do you know how our belittling thoughts can sometimes lead to even more negative thoughts? Say no before it grows into a multi-branched tree in your head. It is sometimes all that is required to silence the negative voices in our heads. You must recognize that self-doubt is a pattern that can be broken with a simple and firm shake of your head.