1.Take A Beat Before Criticizing
It would be unrealistic to say you should never criticize your husband, but making sure it’s really necessary beforehand can minimize how critical you’re being of him.
“It is easy to fall into the pattern of complaining to your partner when they don’t follow through with things or don’t do things the way that you want to,” says James Samuel , founder of Relationshiptv. “Be mindful of when you want to criticize and ask yourself if it is really necessary to say something. If it is, then go ahead. But if it isn’t, bite your tongue and refrain from doing it. Less criticism will result in your partner feeling less attacked, less controlled, more appreciated, and consequently, more eager to step up and help out.”
2. Say Yes”
Particularly if it’s to something you’d normally say “no” to. “After the courting period, couples often become more honest and decline to participate in potentially fun activities together,” notes George Miller ,Uk-based psychiatrist. “Start saying yes more often and participate in new hobbies as a couple.”
3.Keep His Secrets
“When told something in confidence by your partner, do not share the information with anyone— even your best friend,” says Michael Green , LMSW. Keep this in mind no matter how tempting or relevant to your conversation it is. “It is difficult to be vulnerable and share problems with others. When your husband is able to open up to you, it is important to not break his trust.”
4.Compliment Him
A little bit of affirmation can go a long way. Whether it’s on his appearance, work, or personality, a compliment is an easy and effective way to make him feel great. “Most men crave appreciation and want to feel like their wife recognizes their hard work and appreciates them for it,” explains Dr. Evans , a psychologist based in Boulder, CO.
5.Be His Best Friend
He probably has a best friend, but there are some good reasons you should act like one, too. “Best friends love each other, support each other unconditionally and are loyal to a fault,” explains Vikki Ziegler, divorce attorney and author of Marriage Rules. “Be that cheerleader for your husband so that he knows you are an unbreakable team no matter what, as this will open him up to being more vulnerable, honest, and loving.”
