How to have everlasting happiness in a relationship
1. Listen to each other. Listening is such an important tool in relationships. Sometimes, we find it hard to hear what our partner is saying because we’re so wrapped up in our own emotions. Remember that communication works two ways. Listening to your partner is the only way to know what’s really going on with them.
2. Don’t argue over money. It’s practically a guaranteed relationship killer. If you haven’t yet had a conversation about how money is earned, spent, saved, and shared, do it now. Try to get an understanding of how each of you sees your financial life, and where the differences are. Then address them.
3. Appreciate what you have. Many people end up looking outside their relationship because they think there’s someone out there who is ‘better’ for them. Relationships aren’t about finding the ‘perfect partner’ – whatever that means. They’re about allowing the connection you do have to develop and grow. The strongest relationships are usually the ones that have been given the time to flourish.
4. Be friendly. Treat your partner the way you’d treat a good and trusted friend: with respect, consideration, and kindness. It will go a long way in fostering a strong relationship.
5. Don’t bottle things up. If something has upset you, you’re not doing yourself or your partner any favours by keeping it to yourself. This is only likely to cause resentment to build up that will come out in other ways. If it’s something that really matters to you, talk about it.
6. Set goals as a couple. Talk about how you want your relationship to look in a year, five years, ten years. Then work toward that goal.
7. When it comes to building an everlasting relationship, supporting each other in a relationship can develop a sense of comfort, positivity, and safety, all extremely healthy and important feelings to grow in a new relationship.
8. Make your partner a priority. That is why you’re in this relationship in the first place.
9. Dropping your pride and knowing how to compromise. You can’t always have it your way and your way only when you are in a relationship. How would you like it if your partner thought that their opinion and likes were the only ones that matter? Enter into a compromise. Compromise is a major factor in any relationship and should start from the very beginning. Compromise can work well come date night too because one week you and your partner could do something you like, then the next week something they like. Compromise can be on mutual terms.
If you cannot compromise, it becomes a one-sided relationship which never works out too well.
You are not exactly sacrificing what you want or what your partner wants, but altering it to meet both of your needs, which will help keep things equal.
10. Work on the relationship. An untended garden develops weeds that can ultimately kill even the heartiest plants. And so it is with relationships. It is important to address problems and misunderstandings immediately. Some people believe good relationships just happen naturally. The truth is that a good relationship, like anything you want to succeed in life, must be worked on and tended to on a regular basis. Neglect the relationship, and it will often go downhill.
11. Don’t expect your partner to change; but at the same time give them more of what they want. If both you and your partner stop trying to change each other, you will eliminate the source of most of your arguments. At the same time, each of you should focus on giving one another more of what you know the other person wants, even if it doesn’t come naturally. For instance, instead of complaining how your partner never cleans out the dishwasher, try just doing it yourself once in awhile without complaint. Your partner will likely notice your effort and make more of an effort themselves around the house. If you do both of these things at once you’ve got a winning plan.
12. Respect your partner, and don’t take him or her for granted. Treating your sweetheart with respect is likely to get you the same in return. And regularly reminding them how much they mean to you will enrich your relationship in indescribable ways. When you say, “I love you,” pause for a moment to really mean it. And don’t be afraid to express your feelings of appreciation with your partner — he or she will be thankful that you did.
13. Let God be the center of your relationship. God’s love is everlasting. Hence, if you want your relationship to last forever, keep the words of God, and obey His commandments. Let God be the center of your relationship. Let his teachings and instructions, which are all good to keep your lives physically and spiritually healthy, guide your relationship.
Remember the first and second greatest commandments of God. The first is to love God with all your heart, mind, and soul. The second is to love your neighbors as yourself.
14. We can’t deny that some things that truly push our buttons in a relationship.
No one is perfect, and there may be times when you feel frustrated by each other’s actions. But you cannot, nor should you want to change the person you are in love with. Accept them for who they are. Accept that they may do things differently from you, and that’s okay. Accepting what is, allows room for appreciation.
15. Show affection daily. S’e’x’ is one thing, if possible have daily. Holding hands, a hug, a squeeze on the arm, all create connection and trust. If you’re not getting as much attention as you want, let it be known.