1. Be physically and emotionally present.
When together, don’t look off in the distance or daydreaming about Sunday night football. “Face and look at her—with interest—when she starts talking.
2. Send unsolicited texts.
Unsolicited, meaning genuine and not asked for. “A text that says, I love you, or if you’re not at that stage yet, thinking of you, speaks volumes.
3. Giving small, yet meaningful, gifts.
“Get her something you noticed she liked without her mentioning it,” says Love doctor Joshua. She loves the smell of lavender, so bring home some lavender sprigs one day.
4. Create new experiences together.
“Arranging classes to foster a passion of hers, a cooking course for example, shows that you know what’s important to her and that you’re supportive.
5. Do some of her duties.
“Make her feel appreciated and do some of the house work that she may usually do.
6. Ask what she likes.
Since you can’t read her mind, it’s fine to ask her what would make her feel special, “The key is then to do one or two a day whether you feel like it or not.”
7. Give her an unexpected embrace.
“Especially when she’s tense. This brings your strength to the tension and allows her to relax from it,” says Andersen. Or, just try to surprise her with a hug from behind.
8. Sit next to her.
If you really want to know how to make a girl feel special, body language is everything. When at a restaurant, sit next to her instead of across from her. “If you’re always near her or sitting towards her it subconsciously makes her feel wanted and protected.
9. Compliment her on a regular basis.
Too many people wait to compliment people like it’s a special occasion “Compliments are free and make people feel special!”
10. Encourage and support her.
One of the easiest ways to be supportive is to be encouraging. Always let her know that you think she can do something, and encourage her to pursue things that can make her feel happy. Hearing words like “you can do that”, “it’s okay not to be okay”, or “you’re not alone” can push her to do things she badly wants, in times she feels like giving up.
11. Truly listen to her.
When you can truly listen to your girlfriend’s feelings, you make it safe for her to express herself because the more she is able to do it, the more she feels heard, understood, and loved. Thus, take interest in listening carefully when she is talking to you, show response, get involved in the conversation, and never interrupt.
