How to turn casual dating into committed relationship
If you want to turn casual dating into a real relationship, then you should remember that it is the mutual process. It is possible only if both have this desire, even if one of the partners doesn’t say it. If you are rejected, then it is better to stop. You risk of losing even what you have now.
1. Be very very creative. Going from casual dating to relationships, come up with interesting dates. It should be something more than ordinary dinner in a restaurant and clubs. A good date is a date that forces you to stop chatting on Facebook, put phones on a table and devote time to each other. Sometimes it’s worth trying something non-trivial; something that takes you out of the usual comfort zone. Go to the festival of beer or folk crafts, visit a concert of a local rock band or go rollerblading to the park. The new adventure enriches with joint impressions, which can be remembered in the future.
This strengthens the connection between you and increases the likelihood that she strives to continue these meetings. In addition, you can learn a lot from the idea for the next appointment that comes to her mind. For example, if she invites you to visit some exhibition, hoping that you are a lover of contemporary art, then she obviously wants to please you and this is a good sign.
2. Be clear with your intentions. Let this person know that you’re in it to win it. Let them know that you’re looking for a relationship that has legs. Make sure it’s clear you’re not just looking for something light.
3. Take your time. Don’t rush into something more serious. Take your time getting to know each other. Make sure that you can share your secrets and folds of your personalities at a natural pace. Really make sure that you’re letting this person see all the dimensions of your character.
4. Lead by example. Don’t expect this person to be serious about you if you’re not serious about them. Treat them with the respect that you would treat a boyfriend or girlfriend, from the very beginning. There’s no reason to save it for later.
5. Find a way to tell this person how you feel about them in a clear and direct fashion. Let them know what you like about them. Let them know why you think you’re compatible. Tell them what you want.
6. If you move too fast, you might ruin the relationship and your chance of something serious. The key is to be patient and move slow instead of going all-in right away. If you have feelings for him, there’s a chance he feels the same — but he might not realize it or feel confident enough to vocalize it. That doesn’t mean you should scream it from the rooftop. Instead, make subtle changes to your relationship and see how he responds.
7. Show him your worth. When you fully understand that you’re the prize, you’ll demonstrate your worth and he’ll want to work for your affection. You’re special and unique outside of the bedroom, but he’ll never know it if you’re constantly dropping your own life to cater to his every urge.
8. Most guys get into casual relationships because they only want something casual. Before you waste your time trying to move the relationship forward, you might want to figure out whether he even wants something serious. Casually ask him about his future and listen to whether or not he mentions a wife or even girlfriend. That’ll tell you what you need to know.
When it comes time to bring this up with the person you are seeing, pick a time and place that is meaningful to the both of you, and at the very least is conducive to a serious discussion about your future together. Be honest and try to explain your feelings in a way that is calm.
Try not to just dump this onto the other person too suddenly. You really want to give them time and space to process what you are saying and to give you an equally honest and thought-out answer. You won’t know if they will want the same thing until you ask but be prepared for anything.
Most of all, respect their decision!
From there, if everything goes according to plan and you two agree to try a serious relationship, you will need to lay out what your expectations are for each other and how you may want to take your relationship to the next level. This can include if you want to be exclusive to each other, for example.
Once this has been done, a relationship that started off from a casual dating experience is just like any other serious relationship and will ultimately be what the two of you decide to make of it! Just make sure you are open and honest with each other and on the same page with where you are.
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